How to Keep the Spark Going in a Long-Distance Relationship


Whether you or your partner work away from home frequently or you have found someone online who lives far away, it is important to know how to maintain a relationship despite the distance between you. It can be incredibly challenging to keep the spark going when you are not around your partner, and having few IRL (in-real-life) moments together can put a serious strain on a relationship. However, if you and your loved one truly care about each other, distance is no issue; especially when you know how to nurture your relationship without being in constant, physical contact with each other. Here are a few ways to help you connect in a long-distance relationship.

Good Communication

Good communication is key to any healthy relationship, long distance or not. Deep conversations about issues that truly matter to you can deepen your emotional bond and help you connect on another level. Small talk (such as comments about the weather) is inevitable, but try to go beyond this. Fanning the flames of a long-distance relationship involves deeply connecting with your partner through a continuous conversation, so make sure your conversations have substance. Good communication can spread out over various means, such as text messages, phone calls, emails, and even snail mail. An unexpected love letter sent by post can put a smile on your partner’s face, and it gives them a physical object to treasure.

Schedule Regular Video Calls

In addition to all the communication channels mentioned above, try to schedule in regular video calls to mimic the feeling of being in each other’s company. Being able to see your partner will help you interact and bond in ways that aren’t possible via written means. Although it is important to regularly catch up with your other half via video calls, try to go one step further by arranging a virtual date night. During your special night, you can do fun activities such as watching a movie, cooking the same dinner in each other’s virtual presence, or even enjoying a wine-tasting session together. Whatever activity you decide on, try to set the mood with lights and décor, and dress for the occasion, too.

Get Sexual

Long-distance relationships allow couples to get creative in the virtual bedroom. Without physical contact, you need to be more inventive with your sexual desires. Couples that don’t see each other often can hike up the sexual chemistry by being flirty using technology. Sexting and sending nudes can help you stay sexually connected with your loved one, while introducing dirty talk can also help you keep the spark alive. Knowing how to talk dirty can feel awkward at first, but pushing the boundaries in this way can help you feel closer.

Explore New Places Together

Taking the chance to explore new places together instead of going back and forth to the same place can add excitement to a relationship. Planning a trip is a great way to spend virtual time together, and it will make finally meeting up that much more special.